Everything is ok! Still above ground! I am alive! I am just fine! I have said and heard these phrase by everyone. Prior to my own self-improvement this is truly how I admitted I felt. I am fine! The more I say it I realize that it means nothing. What does that tells us first off about a person. Fine is not a feeling. Fine is not a state of being. It is a word to describe high quality or at the same time it can be used to describe little. Like fine hair or fine string. For us today it has become a fancy word to say I don’t want to talk about myself or my problems.

Being a father with a 5 and 2 year old, I have noticed the range of feelings and emotions they have. I come home from work and I ask, how their day is. I will get either, it was good, I’m sad right now, or even I will walk in on a full blown tantrum. In most cases my kids are reactive based on their emotions. As they grow older then they will start to learn how to manage their emotions and use their intellect to react to their emotions. I have noticed that my children are never just fine.

Feelings and emotions is what makes us human. We are not robots. We are never going to be like one of my favorite science fiction characters like mister Spock. Granted Spock did have emotions and feelings he just suppressed them because they believed they were better than that. But we are humans. God gave us feelings. Why do you think when a baby is born they cry. They are feeling that emotion of being pulled into the world. How scary that is until they are cuddle up to their mother when they fell security again and are able to relax. Emotions are a part of us. Emotions can drive us, hinder us, or God forbid keep us stationary.

Spencer