Posts

Weekly recovery posts from the 2026 relaunch. Start with whatever title meets you today.

  • Boundaries Are Not Punishment

    Boundaries can look a lot like punishment from the outside. I remember the first time I put a lock on my own computer, how much it stung, like I’d just signed a confession. … More Boundaries Are Not Punishment

  • Know Your Triggers Before They Know You

    A trigger can be almost anything. It’s not usually one big dramatic event, it’s more often a small moment that quietly starts pulling you down a path toward looking for relief, and if you’re not paying attention, that path ends in relapse. … More Know Your Triggers Before They Know You

  • Connection Is the Cure

    Knowing that connection matters and actually knowing how to build it are two different things, and for years I only had the first one. … More Connection Is the Cure

  • You Are Not Your Addiction

    For years, if you’d asked me to describe myself, “addict” would have come out somewhere in the first few sentences, and not as something I’d struggled with, as something I was. … More You Are Not Your Addiction

  • The Loneliness Loop

    Nobody in my life knew, for a long time, exactly how bad it had gotten. Not because I was surrounded by people who didn’t care, but because I made sure of it. … More The Loneliness Loop

  • Shame Is Not Your Friend

    For most of my struggle, I thought shame was doing me a favor. I figured if I felt bad enough about what I’d done, disgusted enough with myself, it would eventually scare me straight. … More Shame Is Not Your Friend

  • Learning to Feel Again

    After I understood that I’d spent years going numb instead of finding calm, I ran straight into a new problem: I had no idea how to actually feel something on purpose. … More Learning to Feel Again

  • The Difference Between Numb and Calm

    For years, acting out was how I got through things I didn’t want to deal with. If there was a project at work I was dreading, or a conversation I didn’t want to have, acting out is what let me finally sit down and do it. … More The Difference Between Numb and Calm

  • Do You Know What You’re Feeling Right Now?

    Someone asked me once, in an early recovery group, “what are you feeling right now,” and I genuinely did not know how to answer. Not because I was hiding it, but because I actually could not locate the feeling. I could tell you what had happened that day. I could tell you what I was…

  • Why Addiction Steals Your Joy Too

    For a long time I thought I was chasing a high. Looking back, I wasn’t chasing anything, I was running from something. Underneath every binge there was some kind of pain I didn’t want to sit with: things not going the way I wanted, uncertainty about where my life was headed, boredom I didn’t know…

If this landed, name one feeling before you close the page. That is enough for today.

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